Dad

Miss u loads. I love you. Glad I was with you when you needed me. You weren't alone at the end. All my love Linda. xxxxx

Missing you everyday, sleep well and keep an eye on Nanna from your end xxxxxx

A friendly word.....

Hiya Sarah, my Dad had three strokes in seven years.He recovered from the first one but the second one made him completely paralysed down his left side with a clot that was in the left side of his neck.He was now living on borrowed time.
We watched him go from being a very strong-willed and stubbon man to a man who cudn't talk but nod and move his right arm. In August of last year you could tell he'd had enough poor thing.He'd got the MRSI bug in the left hip that he'd had a hip replacement done in 2001.Although he got over that he ended up a few months later with an urine infection.He really went down hill fast,we were all called to his bed as they didnt think he'd make it through the night.I stayed with him all night because I didn't want him to pass away on his own but the following morning he was wide awake and smiling at me.We all thought he going to be alright after all.This wasn't the case because he got ill again.The hospital asked us what we wanted to do ... do we want to let him go on like this or would we prefere to withdraw all feeding and fluids and allow him to die.We all talked about it and we all said that if Dad could talk he'd have told us all to let him go.So that's exactly what we did.We all said our goodbyes and I told Dad it was time to let go and that all those that have passed will be there to meet him.My Husband, myself and our children had to return home to Huddersfield as my Husband wasn't allowed time off but my family kept me in touch.
The days went by, he was always in our thoughts. Then on August the 18th I was sat down using my laptop with my back towards the door but I saw someone walk past towards the front door. I automatically looked round but no-one was there, I asked my family if anyone had gone out the front door ... "No" they said. All of a sudden Dad was in my head, I've gotta phone Linda!!(my Sister. "Linda is Dad okay?!?" ... "Yes as far as I know he is, I've not heard anything." I told her what had happened so she called the Nursing Home, Dad was sleeping, he was fine. Linda said not to worry that she'll tell me if anything happens.The following evening the phone rang ... I knew even before Lin told me, I started to cry with her then all of a sudden complete relief fell apon me ... Dad's gone, he's at peace now.
I also wondered why he'd not passed that night when I was there with him?? The reason is because I wasn't meant to be. Most of the time our loved ones will not pass infront of us for fear of seeing us upset and hurting. He still haunts me on and off ... u know what I mean the little things like a song, a film,certain smells, moving our Wedding picture and more.

Dear sweet Sarah, I hope this brings you some comfort sweetheart.

Love and hugs,

~*~ Claire ~*~
xx

Claire Whitcher
1 week ago

Thinking of you everyday.
Love you lots xxxxxxxxxxx